There are many myths regarding male sexuality that aren't examined in most medical journals: Do men prefer larger breasts? Do men lie to get women into bed? Do all men love porn? Here are some of the most common male sexuality myths that the AM Great Male Survey will either prove or debunk.
Number 10: Men like big breasts( and i want big breast too)
It is true that many men are fascinated with and love breasts, though this may or may not refer specifically to big 'uns. In previous studies it has been shown that around 25% of men preferred large breasts; however, another study contradicts this, giving a 65% appreciation rate of well-endowed women. Studies on human sexuality often focus on attractiveness in general, including breasts as part of the whole package along with intelligence, symmetry and personality traits (such as a good sense of humor), so it is not clear exactly how many men simply love big breasts.
Other studies have shown women mistakenly think men like bigger breasts more than they actually do, and women believe other women prefer bigger breasts more than they actually do. The general perception among women is that men prefer larger breasts in a sexual partner, which explains why more and more women are getting surgical breast enhancements. According to plastic surgeons, however, they do as many increases as they do reductions. This reinforces the idea that breasts are at least perceived to be an important factor in sexual attractiveness.
The "deep-down inside" reasons supposed for men preferring large breasts is A) Big breasts are a demonstration of fertility and the mammary abundance to suckle offspring; and B) The "mother" factor (see Freud and suckling as an infant, men are obsessed with boobs since they spent so long with their mouths wrapped around them as babies).
Number 9: Men hate using condoms
Condoms are life-saving devices, but not all condoms are created equal. Opinions differ between men and women regarding their value, but most people generally agree that condoms are a bit of a pain. However, this being said, part of their appeal is their safety, and fluid capturing qualities. Because of the variations in opinion, AM has deemed it a necessary topic to discuss in our Great Male Survey -- do men hate using condoms?
Number 8: Men lie to get sex
It is true that some men lie to get sex, but how many men do it? What kinds of lies do they tell? A lie can be as simple (but as mean) as telling a woman that you love her so that she'll be bubbling with delirious happiness and sleep with you right away (yeah, right), or as devious as, "No, I'm not married" or "My Lamborghini is in the garage at the moment, so I had to borrow my butler's car."
It isn't an honest representation and, if she found out, it would more than likely cause more trouble than the sex (if you got any) was worth. Lying to get ourselves places is part of being human. Deception for reproduction could be blamed on our basic instincts. However, let's not go there. The results of our Great Male Survey provide us some clues as to whether men lie much to get sex.
Some interesting studies performed at the Texas State University showed that people lie all the time, every day in fact. People who don't lie -- and tell the truth no matter what the consequences -- often had very limited and difficult social lives. However, the way men and women lied differed: Men lied to make themselves appear more impressive (read, to make women want to sleep with them), and women lied to save people from hurt feelings. It could be assumed from this that people who tell the truth all the time hardly ever get laid.
Number 7: Men don't last long in bed
This myth is clearly untrue, but how untrue? How long do most men last in bed? A survey of sex therapists revealed that they believe the optimal length of sex is three to 13 minutes. This does not include foreplay. Each couple has their own time averages, and this depends on each individual and of course other factors that come into play, including energy levels and sexual desire. People often think that "everyone else" (who exactly are these people?) is having better, longer and more sex than them, when in reality this is generally untrue. As long as you both get your rocks off, everybody is happy.
Number 6: Men dodge birth control responsibility
Men have often taken the brunt of women's complaints against them regarding whose responsibility birth control is. It just so happens that women have more options available to them (the pill, the injection, patches, implants, diaphragms, IUDs, female condoms, sterilization, etc.) than men (condoms, sterilization, possibly the male pill, withdrawal).
This means that the responsibility for birth control nearly always falls on women by default. However, in our modern era, use of condoms is still the main form of contraception, followed closely by the pill. This means that equal responsibility should be in place, but is it?
Number 5: Men don't care whether or not their partners orgasm
It has often been noted by men that they care very much whether their partners orgasm during sex or not -- it is well up there in the "being successful" realm. Being selfish in bed is generally frowned upon by both genders. According to some studies regarding the faking of orgasms, it was deemed very important for men to bring their partner to orgasm so the women didn't stray to get their rocks off elsewhere. Theoretically, men care whether their partners orgasm, but is this true in reality? (like duhhh my hubby let me reach orgasm first )
Number 4: Men love porn
It has been noted by a great deal of research that men are sexually visual and women, not so much -- fMRI scans revealed higher levels of activity in two parts of the brains of men, not women, during visual tests. However, this research only proves that men like to look at their partner/women, watch what they are doing and appreciate visual sexual stimulation. This does not directly refer to the watching or viewing of pornographic material. And it does not take into account the fact that many women also like to watch.
The research so far has not concluded whether, in general, men love porn or not. Some men do love porn, but how many men view pornographic material regularly and love it? It is true that some love it, others don't mind a bit of this and that, and others still find it distasteful and/or unappealing. AM answers some of these questions and finds out once and for all if men love porn as much as everybody thinks they do.
Number 3: Men fear anal stimulation (by someone else)
The topic of male anal stimulation has been hot on the lips of everyone lately -- are men really afraid of it? The fear of being labeled "gay" is the main area of concern cited in male anal stimulation, and thus far has been the primary deciding factor. However, the sexual education of the population has increased somewhat, and now most people know that this supposed legendary power of anal sex to "turn someone gay" is false. In fact, many gay men don't even like anal sex, and don't participate in anal activities at all.
The sexual benefits of erotic prostate massage and prostate "sex" are beginning to see the light of day and have encouraged many more men to feel less afraid of being magically turned into a pumpkin, or a homosexual, and they've taken the plunge. Regardless, there is still a thread of "anti" about the whole issue -- but does it still exist? ( i do anal sex so is my hubby gay??) hahaha
Number 2: Men exaggerate their conquest stories
It is commonly acknowledged/assumed that men don't always tell the whole truth when retelling their stories of feminine conquests. What really happened and what they say happened may not match up at all or may just be a little off from the truth (i.e., "I pounded her for hours in 20 positions," as opposed to "We made beautiful love for half an hour/five minutes in the missionary position, and then snuggled," which is indeed far more likely).
Even further from the truth is bragging about sex that didn't happen, and was never going to happen. This may occur after a promising date that only produced a disappointing peck on the cheek at the end. This myth ties in with Male Myth No. 8, where men wish to appear more successful than they are -- only this time it's to other men. This myth is all about competition and success, and the "measure of a man."
Number 1: Men want bigger penises( girls loves it too) haha
Many men are a bit shy about their penises and they want to know how they measure up against other men. Most men fall into the "average" category, neither large nor small, but they don't know it. They believe that they must measure up to their perception (via porn and general "ideas" blown around in the wind) of what is a "good" size penis. The size of a man's penis has been routinely touted as his sole tool to please a woman, by other men. However, ask any woman and she will probably say that size matters a bit (it has to exist), but skill matters a lot more, no matter what the size.
The size of a penis can vary greatly from man to man, and averages fluctuate across ethnic backgrounds. The average size of an Asian man's penis (5.33 inches) is smaller than their African counterparts (6.89 inches). Caucasians fall in the middle somewhere (6.22 inches), and Hispanics just under that (6.15 inches), with Native Americans less lengthy (5.66 inches).
These, of course, are just averages, and averages are taken from large, medium and small -- everybody is different and penises, like people, come in all shapes and sizes.
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